Everyone calls you when they need someone. They call you because they know you’ll be a listening ear, give sound advice, help you with a different perspective, lend them money, do favors, act as their personal psychologist.
You’re called for all of the problems. Someone needs money-Ask you. Someone needs a ride-Ask you. Someone needs advice-Ask you.
People expect you to be there at all times of the day because you always have been.
On the off chance that you say no people soon forget the thousands of times you said yes. When you’ve had enough people accuse you of being inconsiderate, of changing.
You’re always there. You’re always supposed to be there. No matter what. No questions asked. You are supposed to be there, be forgiving, and continue to be the strong one.
But what happens when the strong one needs help?
Who does the strong one call when they’re in a bind? Who does the strong one call when they need to talk? Who does the strong one call when they’re facing health problems? Who does the strong one call when their back is against the wall? Who does the strong one call when it’s all too much and they just can’t take it anymore?
Why is the strong one blamed when they can’t be there? Why is the strong one blamed when they’ve had enough? Why is the strong one blamed when they stop giving in to people and their entitlement? When you’re the strong one why don’t your feelings matter? Why must you be treated like trash and expected to apologize to keep the status quo?
You’re supposed to put your feelings to the side so that others are more comfortable. When you’re the strong one, your comfort isn’t important.
Every now and again you should check on the strong one. See how they’re dong. See if they need anything. If you notice the strong one pulling away it’s usually a clear indication that they’re at their breaking point and they need you there just as much as you have needed in the past, if not more.